Monday, January 10, 2011

WHAT TO DO UNTIL LOVE FINDS YOU....

Dear friends, I finally finished reading a great book - WHAT TO DO UNTIL LOVE FINDS YOU? The author is ……will inform later can’t find the book now….sorry!

My 40days books say I must share my learning with my body of Christ so we can compare notes and share the wisdom. Just to type this is on full Sunday….

A PEAR SHAPE can only talk to a PEAR SHAPE cos they come from the same tree and same seed, so imagine you are in a fruits basket, with oranges, pear, apples and kiwi fruits, you can only understand what the pear is going thru and can only become orange friend, correct?

Advise: You must find your friends or spouse same shape like you, an orange cannot marry an apple cos the seed is different, that again reminded me on my previous marriage, knowing me and ex comes from different tree still wanting to try to go against the odds and get married, have kids and much to everybody knowledge leads to the same conclusion- both going separate ways cos an orange just cannot grow in an apple tree. I did a confession to god that it was more of a challenge I took instead of really in love with him. That is the truth, and the truth shall set you free….

You can read this when free or bored....This writer name is Michelle

What to do until love finds us....of course the answer is simple:

1) HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH JESUS and love god with all your heart.
2) See rule no: 1......  Hahahahaha......

This book chapter goes like this:

The Gift - After coming out from traumatic romance, discouraged, she waved white flag of surrender to god, sat down at the feet of Jesus and finally ready to hear what Jesus had to say. Jesus told her she got a lot to learn b4 he could send her into the arms of a man he has prepared for him. He encourage her asking her to study the bible, 1st story is Esther, who prepares herself 12months in advance before marrying the king, during this time 6mth treatments in oil and 6 more in spices and cosmetic before she can marry. She was trained on how to please the king. Jesus told her the only way to have an effective relationship is both parties stick to their roles. Each person has a responsibility to operate in his or her role in a manner that glorifies god. If we don't we end up doubt, mistrust, disrespect, lack of sensitivity to each other's need which lead to death of  relationship.

First Encounters – Please do not mix up Hollywood love and god way of loving. Hollywood is when the man comes and sweep your feet, fell in love, didn’t work, go find another. While god way of love is love god, love yourself, love  your spouse and keep the love.

God’s love is : PATIENT,KIND,NOT JEALOUS,DON’T BRAG,NOT ARROGANT,RUDE,DO NOT SEEK ITS OWN, NOT EASILY PROVOKED,DO NOT TAKE INTO ACCOUNT OF ANY WRONG SUFFERING,REJOICES IN THE TRUTH. IT BEARS ALL THINGS, BELIEVES ALL THINGS, HOPES ALL THINGS, AND ENDURES ALL THINGS. LOVE NEVER FAILS.

But how do you keep your heart when you so desperately want to give it away? Heart requires special protection-when our heart suffers, our whole being suffers.

Most of us woman want to believe everything a man tells us cos we are hoping he is “the one”. So we listen then shape our own reality.
But there is another reality, god’s reality in the form of holy spirits.
How do you slow down your heart rate long enough to look carefully with your eyes of the man stands before you? How do you become willing to take cue from Holy Spirit instead from your feelings?

The answer is found in another man. This man is a wonderful talker, tender, compassionate, warm, loving, consistent, and generous, a good listener and a wonderful friend. He knows how to treat a woman, he promises to do exceeding abundantly about all that you ask or think. He will not leave you our forsake you. This man name is JESUS.
(This is the character of Jesus and should be the character of your new man)

But we all say JESUS IS NOT ENOUGH, I need a physical man. A human flesh man I can touch, feel, smell, and see rite?

If we do not focus on Jesus, then desperate woman start to settle for man who should never be considered (much to the horror of our friends and families)

Jesus knows how you feels, your physical needs. When Jesus knocked on the door of your heart and you let him in, show him a seat and left him there in the living room? J
Or you have decided to have a real relationship with him?

Jesus wants to see your whole life. What your bedrooms look like, your kitchen, toilet, diet, he wants to give you a new perfume called “Fruit of the Spirit”. He wants the 2 of you to be close so he can move around your home, office and your private world.

How’s your conversation with Jesus? Boring, formal, impersonal and one sided? Jesus want to hear everything you feel, want, happiness. Sadness, everything! Isn’t this is the man you are looking for?

How can you master real intimacy if you haven’t practiced it? You can learn all about it with Jesus and not have to suffer the fear of rejection.

If you experience the presence of Jesus, you won’t focus being alone as much or not loved. Jesus is the model man.

You will have more awareness about how you should be treated, so you’ll start comparing ordinary men to Jesus. Of course no man can be Jesus, but you can come up with a list of realistic criteria now that you have a reference point via Jesus.

Once you find intimacy with Jesus, you’ll be able to slow down enough to check out the qualities of the men you meet. You will be willing to listen to the Holy Spirit what it has to say about your date regardless of his great appearance.

The Intimate Challenge – The world has somehow gotten us to believe that the way to a man’s heart is through his body. But the bigger lie is buried in the center of that statement cos it implies that we woman have nothing else to offer except our bodies. When we allow this subtle lie of Satan to influence our reasoning, we become victims of double-edged deception. If our bodies are all we have to offer, we’re in trouble.

Sex was designed to be a response to love, not a foundation of it. God showed us that a well kept woman is always mindful of her worth; she never stoops at being common and cheap. The woman will not be handled, examined and thrown back into anyone bin like a supermarket GOOD DEALS!

Bible says: “WHO FIND A VIRTUOUS WOMAN, HER PRICE IS FAR ABOVE RUBIES” (proverb 31:10)

If is far more painful to break up with someone you’ve slept with than with someone you haven’t. That is because God created sex to be the seal of marriage, to bind 2 people together. SEX is not just a pleasurable experience or an expression of love it creates a soul tie whether love is present or not.

Jesus wants better things for you. Have faith in god believe you are “fearfully and wonderfully made”. Look and behave like a well-kept woman. The man that god has reserved for you will see and recognize your specialness cos you are the piece of himself that he’s been missing. You will complete the puzzles of his life.

Remember, the things you do now ill affect your relationship for the rest of your life. Build a solid foundation from the beginning one that god can bless and build on.

So in the meantime, chill out take a cold shower and wait on the lord. God is faithful, who will not allow you be tempted beyond what you are able but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.

You can cooperate with god by making yourself accountable to a friend that you can trust.

If a man starts making moves towards you, you do not have lay hands on him or start praying in the spirit and casting out the devils! Don’t squash his romantic nature so thoroughly that he can’t even imagine wanting to marry you. It’s alright to make him feel desirable just keep things under control.

Dealing with Dreams – We make things hard on ourselves when we choose to dwell on our fantasies cos they usually bring us to fork in the road. That choice is partially determined by how much time we’ve invested in our daydreams. Then, when the desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin and sin when it is full grown brings forth death.

Our natural inclinations are in rebellion against god. And our hearts and minds can be deceitful. Choose your guard your heart and mind. Keep your eye on the prize – a God ordained marriage. You want to arrive at your destination in one piece, untarnished.

We know thoughts can work for us or against us. Let’s make our thoughts life work for us. Fill your mind with the word of god. Reflect on who and whose you are. You are God’s well kept woman. You are virtuous woman.

As you renew your mind. You will not be conformed to the world. Fill your mind with godly thoughts and imagination, something wonderful will take place inside of you. You will have more power to deal with temptation when it presents itself cos the word of god will automatically rise up to meat it. You will be free of tension. You won’t spend every moment with the man of your dreams torn between lust and the dread of carrying out what you are feeling.

Promises, Promises – This chapter talks about her failure in relationship, Michelle was a young Christian woman believes in the above values by keeping sex out of dating, she took her heart out for the guy who is non believers and she spends a lot of time praying for him hoping he would be her dream man of god, they were dating and she thought they would live happily ever after, however things turns bad cos he wanted sex and she didn’t want to give into his sexual desires. So he decided to be friends and dated someone else who willing to have sex with him and this GF got pregnant and they got married. Michelle was devastated hoping he could get saved by god and still comes back and marry her. She was crying and the devil had tea with her…..

The devil says: THAT IS WHAT YOU GET FOR BEING SO HOLY and you don’t really believe that any man saved or unsaved is every going to marry you without sleeping with you first does you? Time to cut this waiting on god stuff and go after what you wanted and make it happened. God doesn’t care if you ever get married. God wants you to be single so he can have all your attention and he is selfish. You keep being super Christian and you will be old and grey. You will have no energy left for honeymoon and you will not have all the kids that you dream.

Michelle was crying badly then she said: JESUS HELPS ME, and fell to sleep. When she woke up holy spirits told her god allows it to fail cos god was saving you from something you would not be able to endure.

Michelle remembers the story of Rebekah the virgin that Abraham asks to find for his son Isaac. God know exactly where your husband is and where you are. First and foremost, both people must belong to the family of God. It helps when people have the same backgrounds and share complementary goals and values. It is easier if both are walking in same direction.

As woman of god, we have to be willing to be a support system to our husbands, no matter where they are in life – emotionally, mentally and spiritually. We cannot go into a relationship and marriage planning to change or move a man from where he is. That is god job and depends on what he decides he needs to be changed.

God promise – When he places you in front of a man he has chosen for you, the man will be willing to pay the price. He will be willing to give up all he considers valuable including sex in order to have you. Jacob waited 14yrs for Rachel. God make sure the man will protect everything concerning you including your walk with the lord. He will love you enough not to lead you into compromise and be willingly to take his place as leader, protector and provider.

Mary was pregnant before marriage, angels told Joseph to accept and protect Mary, and he obeys.

The man god chosen for you cannot get away. The Holy Spirit will be on him until he submits to god’s plan for his life.

God promise to perfect all things concerning you. Trust his timing for your life because he is busy filling his purpose for you. Allow god to hold on to your heart. God will take good care of it cos you have not done a good job at keeping your heart from abuse so please give it to god to get the highest price for it.

As a reward for the wait, our heavenly father promises that no eye has seen, no ear has heard, no mind has conceived what god has prepared for those who love him.

The Awakening – A man will spend a lifetime chasing what he cannot have. Freedom is the utmost importance to a man. A woman longs to be possessed but a man longs to be free.

Remember if it is god’s will, it will happen! If it is not god’s will it is better you find out early so you can be set free to receive the person god has chosen for you.

One person goodbye leaves the door open for the person god has truly chosen to say hello. Put faith in god, his word, his promise and joy will fill our world cos you will be excited to know god is preparing a future husband that right for you.

If a man break off with you and he didn’t come back it means he is not the man god has chosen for you. Just say – Thank you god and you have been saved from a world of trouble.

If your man decides to take time off from your relationship, let it go and don’t cling on the man but god.

If the man is god choice you will see him coming back up the road towards you when you least expects it. And when he returns he is a new man.

Proverb 18:22 says – “He who finds a wife finds a good thing”
It is not the other way round. Allow your mate to find you not just in the sense of physical location but emotionally and spiritually too. Make sure you are in stance of holiness and spiritual maturity when he spots you.

Men are visual creatures. First we must see Jesus. Second, we need to make sure we’re focusing correctly that we are not seeing man as trees but really seeing them as they are. Third, we need to be sure that we are surrounding ourselves with God’s love and wisdom so we can proclaim, yes, I have confirmation in my spirit that this is the man god has chosen for me to share my life with and lend my support to.

Confrontation- Our god is a confrontational god. Michelle had a dream about wearing a real diamond ring but it fell into some other fake diamond. Michelle unable to find the diamond cos she cannot tell the difference between real and fake. Since she is prone to argue with the truth when she was awake. God often deals with her through dreams when she is sleeping.

God tell her she unable to tell the difference between real love and fake love, she is always attracted to the same type of man who needs her.

God will help you. But he seeks your cooperation, Look in the mirror of your soul and ask god to expose everything in you that he wants to fix in preparation of that glorious walk into the Promised Land.

You will know you will be ready to enter the land of love when you see everything as it really is. When you understand the commitment marriage ready calls for and what your mate and god will expect from you. The land of promise is also a land of responsibility and total surrender.

The truth comes out – Jesus said: You shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free. We are bondages to generation curses. When you make vows I shall never be like my mother or father it will get you into trouble. Vows such as this place us in greater bondages than we can imagine. When we focus on the faults of others we stand in danger of becoming like them. We begin to develop the roots traits of that person.

This is why it is important we continually ask god for revelation when we find ourselves caught up in destructive patterns. Ask god to reveal to you the self-defeating behaviors of which you may not be aware.

If you are in denial cos you feel overwhelmed to break the undesirable chain of events in your life now is the time to face the music and does a freedom dance.

Now is the time to get on with the rest of your life. When you finally decide to ready to move on, you’ll work as hard as possible to get free.

Michelle life weakness was she chooses the man that is emotionally selfish. This man unwilling to make commitment. Her earlier man that left cos no sex, divorced, become a Christian came back looking for her after many years when she was on the road to recovery.

He wanted to get back together, he court her with phone calls, loads of attention and gifts. Michelle enjoys it but she not sure where the relationship is heading, then she look in the mirror and she realize he didn’t change he didn’t want to make commitment that is why he is divorced. She realized she needed to accept this was her weakness unable to see the man type she is attracted to.

God wants all of our relationships to be healthy, comfortable ones. We need to submit every need, every want, every burden and every care to god. As god heals and deliverance process in us we become whole, healthy and lovable.

Once you’ve taken the time to allow god to work out whatever the love hindering issue was (or is) in your life, word will get back to Satan that his secret is out and he has been defeated. He will have to retreat in order to come up with some other trick to throw you off the scent of victory. Gradually you will attract and be attracted to the different type of man. As you walk in freedom and wholeness you will be sending off silent signals announce….I want a man not just any man…I want god’s man

Truth or Consequences – When we refuse to change, we refuse to grow. And god expects his children to grow. If you find yourself making same mistakes again and again you may be refusing to allow god to transform you.

Man flee when woman pursue them. Men are created to pursue. It’s in their nature. In some cases men don’t even know why they’re running, they are just being true to their spiritual nature. Many things that seem quiet innocent and well-intentioned that seem okay in today’s society can backfire and stall your love mobile.

Be at the right place for your man. Remember you are not looking for a man. You are waiting for the man – the one god has selected for you.

Bible: CAN 2 WALK TOGETHER UNLESS THEY AGREED

Question to ask –
Tell me about your family.
What do you like to do on your spare time?
How he relates to his mother, and siblings.
What are his goals and plans for the future?
Does he have a vision of life?
Listen to answers for his revelation.

When man says he is not into serious relationship he normally don’t change his mind. They decide to get married then they start looking for their mates. Woman fall in love then get married.

1st thing check out the mate spiritual state. If you start sharing about god and he looks as if you are speaking alien you are in trouble.

Check out his friends. If you don’t have common interest with his friends chances are you don’t have much in common with your dream mate and whatever is keeping you two together won’t last long.

Remember God created Eve to be a helper for Adam not a playmate. Adam need supportive and loving friend in order to deal with the stress of life.

Looking in the mirror- Spiritual + Beautiful = Desirable. Why non Christian woman takes good care of themselves vs. Christian woman at times? Non Christian woman knows if you want to catch a fish you need to have the right bait. They put a lot of energy into looking good and making themselves appealing for their mate. Christian woman know their ultimate source is the King. Having the lord doesn’t mean forget your personal responsibilities.

Michelle wonder many times if she was truly saved, how come she don’t look or dress like it? What do saved people look like? She started looking lesser attractive once she become saved.

The bible is all about beautiful woman and how handsome the man. After being spiritually saved we have to admit looks are important. Tell the truth: Have you prayed and ask the lord to send you someone ugly? No rite.

A man is looking for a woman he can trust. In his world where competition abounds, he needs to know that one things is safe – his heart. He feels confident that he can defend everything else. The husband of virtuous woman “trust in her confidently and relies on and believes her securely” proverb 31:11

A woman who controls her passions and walks with a sensitive conscience before the lord is attractive to a man. Every man wants a woman he doesn’t have to worry about.

A woman should have a gentle and quiet spirit. But that do not suggest that a woman should never have anything to say. It’s an attitude a lifestyle that nurtures and cares that knows when to listen and knows when and how to uplift.
A gentle and quiet spirit influences more than it instructs. It guides without words and communicates more with a look or a touch than words could express in a lifetime.

Power play has no place in romance. In power struggle, where is the victory when you end up being lonely after you’ve proven your point.

Learn to like yourself. Learn to praise god cos you are fearfully and wonderfully made.

Jesus loves you first. His love is deep and he says nothing can separate you from his love not even death nor life, neither angels or demons, neither the present or the future, nor any powers, neither height or depth nor anything else in all creation will be able to separate us from the love of god that is in Jesus Christ our lord.

Take good care of appearance, beauty and be radiant with Jesus love for us. Look loved by Jesus!

A man must be spiritually head of the household. Woman should be prepared to speak in skillful and godly wisdom. Study the word and knowing the mind and heart of your first love god himself. Having a strong foundation of intimacy with him can only improve the state of your relationship with the physical manifestation of his love your mate.

When your relationship with the lord is dry, so is your relationship with your mate.

Queen Vashti, was beautiful but refuse to come out to show her beauty when king ask, she disrespect king, lost her crown.

Don’t just look beautiful, be beautiful.

Costly Expectations – If you are messy single life, then your spiritual condition is reflected in your home.

God has decreed a list of responsibilities for men. They are responsible for their woman spiritually and physically to the point of being willing to lay down their lives. Once married, they are to care for their wives as if they were taking care of themselves. They should provide food and clothes and take very action possible to make sure she lives a safe and secure environment.

Write down a list of the mate you are looking for.
Write a separate list of what your needs are in a relationship.
Write your vision for the relationship.
If you want a love and compassion, be a good listener and a blessing yourself. If you don’t want a man who is in debt, get your own financial status in order. Remember, in most cases you get what you give and you attract what you are.

A woman who knows what she wants and what she deserves and won’t settle for less is considered a prize catch by the male species; she’s extremely beautiful and very desirable.

Don’t assume the role that you haven’t been given. In other words, do not do the things like a wife does until you are a wife. Be a friend until he carries you over the threshold.

The humiliation of rejection after you have poured out your heart and soul to a person can be devastating. In the eyes of most men, they believe that if they had to fight hard to win you that mean you won’t be an easy catch for any other man.

It is a mistake to decide you will get married first, and then find out what god wants you to do so with the rest of your life. SEEK FIRST THE KINGDOM OF GOD AND HIS RIGHTEOUSNESS AND ALL THESE THINGS SHALL BE ADDED TO YOU.

You won’t meet your man until you are busy. Start pursuing some of those other dreams of yours, the wonderful things that god has put in your heart.

Your mate is probably waiting on the other side of your dreams. You will meet your mate when you get on with your life. Life a happy and fulfilled life cos you will do what you were born to do. The wait for your mate won’t be feeling as long and you won’t feel desperate.

Get busy, Get Whole. Get a life! God knows what he is doing. So get real!

Love talk – Communicates well with mate. Anger stems from what we view as our violated rights. Impasses in relationships come from failing to recognize the rights of others and failing to respect the other person’s feelings. Right or wrong another person’s feeling are very real.
Accusation on the other hand, puts the other person on the defensive which usually accomplishes nothing or the wrong things.

Be a good listener, wait to speak and give god room to act.
It’s not what you say but how you say it makes the difference.

Men respond to needs, not to demands. For every woman in need, there will be a man somewhere close by being moved by her need.

Do you take time to listen? Are you willing to really hear what the other person is saying? Do you wait for god to act on your behalf? Timing is everything.

Most important of all know and have a clear understanding of what your needs are before you approach others with them. This is especially true when communicating with males. Men get very frustrated when the problems keep changing.

Most women naturally like to massage their problems. Turn them over and examine then thoroughly before actively dealing with them. To most men, a problem is an opportunity for them to fix something, finish it and then move on.

Remember that a man’s ego will be affected by how you react to his advice, so don’t ask for his advice if you are not going to consider following it.

God is able to shine the light on our emotions. He can tell us what is going on with us better than anyone. He always gives the right advice and answers we need in a way that will surpass our expectations.

What is most important key to communications with a mate, a friend or even god – openness?

Empathic listening is a good technique to sharpen your listening skills. It stops you from preparing your responses before you have heard everything the other person has to say. If you are already preparing stating his case, you are not remaining open. This can lead to misunderstanding and even greater division. Take the time to listen to the other people and don’t cling to your own response so fiercely that you are distracted from the point. If your position is true and important, it will pour from your heart when it’s your turn to speak.

Stay open to change. Avoid communication killer – anger, pride, secrecy, judgmental attitudes and contentiousness.

God will give you both the grace to impart healing and reconciliation to one another.

The initial surrender Independence without balance is rebellion, and rebellion always leads us on a path to self-destruction.

Submission was designed to free you from bearing the burden and the responsibilities of life alone. It’s that simple. It was not designed to insult you as a woman, or to suggest that you are less than anyone else, or to rob you of opportunity. Submission is crucial to the order of Kingdom living.

God submits to us. He gave us free will he doesn’t override our choices. He doesn’t force himself or his will on us. If we choose to accept or reject him, he submits to our choice. That doesn’t mea he gives up on us. He simply waits until we allow him in. He doesn’t like all the choices we make but he allows us to take the journey we have chosen, patiently watching over us until we arrive back at his throne in a position of surrender. Are you able to submit like that with your friends and loved ones?

God won’t be able to deal with your boss if you are in the way, busy fighting your own battles. The more you rebel against god authority, the harder the lessons of submission become.

The ability to submit relies heavily on your capacity to trust and respect the person giving the orders or making the decisions. This is where choosing the right husband comes in. Ask yourself before you say yes to a serious relationship.

Do I trust this man to make good decisions for me and our future family?
Do I respect his walk with God and how he handles his affairs?
How does he deal with authority?
Is he able to submit?
Don’t let the candlelight and roses distract you.
Remember god words: Submit to one another in the fear of god

If you have elected to spend your life with a man that you believe makes wise decisions, has a heart that is totally open to God’s leading and always seem to consider your needs, this should be an easy thing for you to do. Your willing submission to him will be merely an automatic response to his outpouring of love to you.

The secret to submission understands, and true understanding means you are able to stand under the other person’s position or beliefs.

If you believe that his man truly loves you and is always considerate of what is best for you, then you can believe that his decisions are not coming from a position of self-seeking indulgence. So stand under the protection and guidance that has been given to you through the mate god has selected for you.

The only way to be united in mind is to be united in spirit. Woman has the gifts of spiritual instinct. They can sense danger, things miles away. They just have a knowing down deep inside their beings that doesn’t rely on intellectual fact. And much to the dismay of their partners, they are right most of the time. Women are however, vulnerable to emotion, which can cloud their perception.

Men on the other hand, view things with a clarity that is not distracted by emotion. They survey the facts, tally up the bottom line and make their moves based totally on reason. But sometimes reason alone can dismiss important spiritual implications. This is why either of these modes of operations can be handicapped when in operation alone. The two gifts when combined form a strong defense against evil.

Submit to God, Submit to his plans for your life. Submit to his time schedule. Sometimes the things god allows in our lives are hard, but the outcome is based on how we choose to deal with what we have been given. We can become resistant, hard and unfruitful. Or we can submit to the lesson, blossom from the learning and bear the kind of fruit that makes our heavenly father proud. The choice is ours.

The beautiful thing about submission is that we have a choice. Let’s choose life (obedience) over death (rebellion). Let’s decide to submit to god, submit to our authorities, submit to our mates, and submit to love.

The first revelation – Many woman including godly women, begin to make very foolish choices. They jump into relationships and marriages prematurely in a desperate attempt to validate their desirability.

Woman should relax when we are discouraged. Tell god you are lonely and hurting.

Blessed is the woman who doesn’t allow her desire for a man to cause her to stumble or hinder her from seeing the truth.
1)    Check a man’s spiritual fruit against the word of god.
2)    Let’s not so fast proclaim – this is him cos dove land on his head. Satan can produce signs too. Examine the man’s ministry to us and to the other people around him.
3)    Is he the kind of man god told us to expect?
4)    Are we in a free and relaxed state, willing to hold out for god’s best?
5)    Let’s take the time to observe, to be counseled to ask lots and lots of questions and really listen to the answers.
6)    Is he qualified to be a husband spiritually, emotionally and financially?
7)    Are we willing to take everything we think we want, lay it on the altar, and set a match to it and tell god we want what he wants for us?
8)    Ask god to give you the ability to see that there are still good men left in this world. More important there is one for you!
9)    Pray that your future husband will have eyes only for you. God can agree and cooperate with that.
10)                      Be thorough in your examination before you give your heart away.
11)                      The man God has for you will surpass your expectations. You will meet him when god says so. Not a minute early not a moment late.
12)                      Wait, observe and question. Let the man expose to hidden motives of his heart. Inhale…..waits for god to give direction…..exhale.

Many married person feels lonely, many single person is completely satisfied.

God brings us to it; he will bring us through it. His way leads us to truth and life and the truth is light. The truth sets us free to rise above feeling loneliness, rejections and pain.

The truth means we can trust god to deliver his best for us in his perfect timing.

So be willing to wait. A man who has a heart for God’s purposed for his life and God’s heart for you. Keep hope alive! Truly “all things are possible with god”

Be honest. Whatever you do, don’t imagine you can change a man or that all of a sudden the light will go on and he will immediately become a new person. Forget it! People are generally who they are. Any changes made will be only being by the hand of God and even those take time. God is extremely patient, how patient are you?

God is faithful in supplying all that we need. However, some situations we choose have little to do with him, and everything’s to do with our own willfulness and desires. Because God’s grace is so bountiful, he covers us even when we have invited our own disaster.

If he cheats while dating what makes you think he won’t during marriage? Learn how much you are worth to god. Revel in that information and then walk in it. Find out what loves means in god and then expect and accept nothing less. Internalize His promise to you concerning a mate then confess and stand on them.

Do not have tea parties with Satan. Do not allow Satan lies throw you into state of distress no matter how long you have been waiting. Remember god’s purpose prevails.

Dare to love yourself as god loves you and see what happens. Don’t settle for less than his standard of love in your life. Say no to unloving scammers. Dare to wait for god’s best. Dare to hope. Dare to dream. Dare to believe that you deserve to be loved. Dare to just be you – an incredibly loveable woman of god.

Love god, please god and he shall give you the desires of your heart.

The End!

What I have learned from this book?

1)    Wait. Be obedient. When u want to type a email to a guy friend your notebook battery goes dead means god don’t want you to do it. If  you want to send a msg but it failed accept the fate by god. If you want to do something you know extremely against what you have learn please turn away from it.
2)    Date Jesus. God empty your love bank now so we can build an account with Jesus.
3)    Behave, Think, Act in love with Jesus just as how you would be in love with a man.
4)    Listen to the voice of God, as he talks to all of us. When you have a strong feeling of danger listen to it, it could save your life. When suddenly a person appear to you and say something you considered weird, stop, think, pause. Think about it what benefit this person gets by telling you the truth – YOUR BANK ACCOUNT NO? This person is speaks cos god is telling you something about you. I am sure no body wants to walk up to another and start telling them what they have done wrong. We all MYOB, mind your own business but yet they take effort to tell you the truth. Just accept, Be brave and say sorry to god-CHANGE YOUR GEAR, tis is part of transformation.
     It is god telling you a message when you refuse to acknowledge him through you. God lead you to this religion cos he know you need direction from him. He made you single cos HE REALLY WANTS YOU TO HAVE THE MAN HE WANTS FOR YOU. Soon you will realize god shall send many type of man with many different attitudes. CAUTION : those that looks like your ex, or in anyway reflect your ex is temptation cos if you say you going to change why must you settle for the same type of man. Same temper, same hobby, same lifestyle, if this new man is everything same means you might as well don’t through the painful journey of divorced. Do some matching and quickly delete man you do not need so you can save your heart and emotional problem in listening to their words and spoil your day your mood.
5)    Get a life and be busy while waiting.

God bless and may the grace of god be with you.